Turn inwards to create the BIG life transformation
You know it. Your life – or aspects of it – is now really going through transformation. You already have gone through two challenging stages during your journey: Stage 1. Dream Big, Stage 2. Personal Growth. In this 3rd stage, the actual big transformation happens.
On my journey, this was the most unknown of the stages. I am still not 100% sure where stage 2 ended and stage 3 started in my journey as parts of them were happening in parallel – mainly because I did so many life transformations in one go! I was constantly letting go of something. And at the same time, transforming into something else. But during this stage, I spent lots of time inside my chrysalis, where I was doing a lot of self-healing, allowing the new me to be born naturally.
With butterflies, this is where it looks like the caterpillar is resting in the chrysalis. But inside the chrysalis, the caterpillar is going through the most beautiful transformation. Its metamorphosis. It is changing its form and becoming an adult butterfly.
This stage is where you will turn within. At the beginning you might feel frustrated, because in your mind, you are ready to be the butterfly already. But you are still spinning in this empty space between the old and the new.
Things feel new to you, and there is a lot of uncertainty and chaos in your life as things are not how they used to be. You might not feel safe.
But then you will start to evolve into a new form: you give birth to your new identity. And you notice the change within you. Soon others are noticing it as well. Your transformation might face opposition from people at first. But see it as a defense mechanism for the sudden change. Deep down, you know, things are going towards the right direction even if others might not see it as you do.
You are highly conscious of your old behaviors and thoughts. You work consciously on creating new behaviors and catch those old thoughts that do not serve you. For example, you might have a feeling to start dressing differently, or perhaps you announce a new name. This is also when you start your own company (if that is the transformation you want to do). Or find yourself alone in the new country where you moved in.
Which chakras should you focus on at this BIG TRANSFORMATION stage?
The transformation occurs in your Sacral Chakra – the chakra of giving birth and creation. So you are giving birth to your new self and should surrender to it to happen naturally.
You also will face the Solar Plexus Chakra, as the transformation asks you to transform aspects of who you are. When you create a new picture of yourself, you need strong inner strength and self-esteem.
How to know if you are currently on the BIG TRANSFORMATION stage?
- This is the next day after you have let go of old.
- It feels like you have dropped into the void. It might feel empty, scary, lonely…
- You turn within.
- You are frustrated and think that you are already ready to be a butterfly, yet you are not yet there.
- You feel uncertain yet excited about all the new things.
- You might feel confused about who you are.
- You feel new – but cannot necessarily explain it yet to others.
- You notice the change in how you talk/dress/think/and feel.
- You kind of feel stuck inside the chrysalis.
How can you go through this stage and move on to the next stage?
- Be patient. I know you would like to be a butterfly. But you are not there yet.
- Create a safe space around you and within you so that you can transform.
- Allow the transformation process to happen naturally, but like with any stage, work on yourself. That way, you can fasten the process.
- Learn how to cope with the in-between stage, uncertainty and chaos.
- This is when you notice a change in yourself and see how you are working on creating a new version of yourself. Explore and get to know the new you. Focus on your Solar Plexus: and the inner power of this new person.
- Keep your Sacral chakra open. At one point, I was so ready for the next stage. I knew I had to push myself out of the symbolic chrysalis energy around me. So I did my healing for myself, and during that session, I broke that chrysalis.
It was obvious when I was out of the chrysalis in the process. I did not feel as invisible anymore – my energy turned outwards. I felt like a newborn, ready to fly immediately, but that is not how it goes.
Little did I understand that there was one more stage on my life transformation journey before I was able to fly like a butterfly. In the fourth stage, I had to believe in myself and learn to fly.
Updated: 7 Sept 2022
Essi Koski-Lammi
Essi Koski-Lammi is an Interior Designer, Intuitive Healer, and Inner Alignment Coach with over 20 years of experience in energy work. She guides purpose-driven women and businesses to reconnect with their authentic essence through inner alignment coaching, strategic business channeling, and conscious interior design. Essi’s mission is to create harmony and beauty in both inner and outer spaces, allowing clarity, success, and well-being to flow naturally.
